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The 3 Most Popular Posts from the Past Year

Posted on January 21, 2015

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Almost a year ago I was visiting my sister and brother-in-law in Hawaii. This photo is a nice contrast to the cold, wintery weather we’ve been experiencing in NYC.

Ah, for the warm weather, the crash of waves, and the fresh air of Hawaii!

As I reminisce, here are the 3 most popular posts from the past year. I loved seeing what everyone responded to and found most interesting.

How I Overcame My Fear of Public Speaking (and how you can, too!)

10 Ways to Know If You’re In a Trance

An Easy Way to Strengthen Your Intuition

Enjoy, and feel free to let me know which was was your favorite.

Does Hypnosis Work? Yes, Don’t Be Mislead By These 2 Signs.

Posted on November 20, 2014

Does Hypnosis Work? Yes, don't be misled by these 2 signs.

I often hear 2 main concerns after a client’s first hypnosis session. Interestingly enough, these concerns are completely opposite from one another.

Sometimes a client will say, “I feel really relaxed and peaceful, but I’m not sure the hypnosis worked because I could hear everything you said during the trance.”

Other times a client will say, “I feel really relaxed and peaceful, but I’m not sure the hypnosis worked because I don’t remember anything you said during the trance.”

Curious, right? So which client was hypnotized?

Don’t be misled by theses 2 signs. Read on to find out more, and to discover what kinds of things hypnosis can help you with.

What is Hypnosis?

First, what is hypnosis?

Hypnosis is a state of focus, and quieting or softening, of the analytical or conscious mind. (Does hypnosis work? Yes, and you can read more about how it works here.)

So which client was hypnotized?
Both clients.

When you’re in a state of hypnosis and you hear every word the practitioner says, it means your conscious mind is paying close attention.

Alternately, when you don’t remember anything the practitioner said during the trance, it means your conscious mind drifted off.

Either way is best because with hypnosis I’m not speaking to the conscious mind anyway, I’m speaking to your unconscious mind.

The unconscious mind is 95% of the brain, and it’s where your deeply held beliefs, patterns, and behaviors are stored. Hypnosis helps you access this part of the mind to connect to your intuition and make positive changes.

What are some issues hypnosis can help with? Just this past week, I used hypnosis to help clients with confidence, sleep issues, chronic procrastination, anxiety, and public speaking.

Here’s what clients say about their experience with hypnosis:

I know a lot of people out there are skeptical about hypnosis or hypnotherapy. I was one of them too before I met Deborah. (By the way, I did a lot of research before making the final decision to see her.) I’ve had three sessions with Deborah so far. First two sessions, hypnosis helped me feel relaxed and calm emotionally. I could never imagine myself being so relaxed and peaceful, especially in the middle of Manhattan. No way! —Tom P.

A terrific session with Deborah, who’s friendly, powerful, generous.  I am dealing with issues of grief, but also a touch of writer’s block…something I consider part of the process, but I figured hypnosis might push through my hesitancy.  The next day I zoomed through the problematic part of what I was writing and am rolling on!  Unbelievable, except I’ve had incredible results with Deborah before. –Katherine V.

I cannot express how amazing Deborah is and how drastically my life & outlook has changed for the better since my first hypnosis session. Seven months ago, I went to see her while I was in a horrible state of depression as I was re-adjusting back to my hometown of NYC after leaving a draining job but much more comfortable lifestyle in the Middle East, and rekindling a negative past relationship at the same time. Within 45 minutes of my first hypnosis session, I let go of lots of negative feelings from my past & present and felt so much happiness!  –Sarah C.

Many people think hypnosis is an odd thing to do. That it won’t work for them.  I encourage you to try it and have an open mind.  It just might be more amazing in Session 1 than you imagine. My nutritionist recommended Deborah and so far I’ve lost 40 pounds.  I’m very pleased and am down a size.  I’m throwing my old clothes away because I’m convinced the changes are permanent.

I also actually enjoy our sessions a lot.  I go into deep relaxation in a minute or two.  Deborah has given me self-hypnosis exercises I do at home that help me relax, resist eating, and give me peace of mind. Before I tried hypnosis I thought I wouldn’t be a good subject.  But I was wrong and would encourage you to give it a shot, whatever you are trying to achieve. –Jerry S.

I’d never been to a hypnotist before, but had struggled with anxiety disorder for at least a decade. I had tried a lot to improve it — diet, exercise, meditation, lowering stressors in my life — but was unwilling to turn to medication as a full-time answer. A friend had visited Deborah for her anxiety, so I decided it was worth a try.

The session felt very relaxing and enjoyable. Deborah taught me how to continue with self-hypnosis as needed. I felt much more relaxed after my session, and the anxiety symptoms didn’t return until a week later. I did the self-hypnosis and they were gone almost right away. They returned less intensely a few times after that, and each time I did the self-hypnosis. Now it’s been almost a year and those symptoms are (knock on wood) entirely gone. I had no idea it would work so quickly and efficiently!

Deborah said I was teaching my brain to channel anxiety in a different way, and even that visual helped me to re-imagine my experiences of fear and worry. I 100% recommend a session with Deborah, and suggest being completely open and trusting of what she’s saying. I don’t think it would work as well without trust in yourself and in her method. –Peggy K.
Have something you want to change or work through, and you’re not sure if hypnosis can help? Let me know and we can discuss it. I’m here to help! Or go ahead and book a session here.

How I Overcame My Fear of Public Speaking (and how you can, too)

Posted on March 9, 2014

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Experts say for most people the fear of speaking in public is stronger than the fear of dying.

A few years ago, I could relate to this wholeheartedly. Here’s the situation. I received an award for a book of my poems, and as part of it, was required to participate in a poetry reading.

You think this would be an exciting, happy occasion, yet every time I even thought about the reading, I would have a feeling of deep dread in my stomach and I would literally want to throw up. Dramatic response, eh?

Maybe you can relate?

I see a lot of clients with a fear of public speaking–whether it’s giving presentations at work, performing in front of a large audience, giving a wedding toast, or simply being articulate in a small group setting–this is a common issue. (And it can be quite intense for people: one client was almost hyperventilating in my office!)

How did I overcome this deep fear?

EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique): This is one of the most powerful techniques I teach.

EFT involves tapping on powerful acupressure points while repeating a phrase about what you want to clear or release. It’s based on the premise that every emotional upset causes an imbalance in the body. EFT is able to quickly reduce the emotional charge, allowing the body to rebalance and promote healing.

I’ve talked about this in previous posts and it’s still my #1 favorite way to make quick and easy changes.

So how did I use EFT? Every time I thought about the upcoming reading and felt that deep dread in the pit of my stomach I did a round or two of EFT/tapping. I tapped on everything I was worried about–fear of being judged, fear of failure, fear of not being good enough, fear of freezing up, fear of stumbling over my words.

Finally it was the night of the reading and it was my turn. I approached the podium, adjusted the microphone, and looked at the audience. Then the weirdest thing happened.

I realized I was savoring and enjoying the moment: I saw the well-known poet who had selected my work for the award, noticed some friends and family sitting in the back of the room, saw one of my favorite professors. I felt incredibly grateful for the opportunity, and was actually enjoying getting to read my poems and share my work.

It was bizarre–I had a thought that perhaps I wasn’t in the right body, as this was such an unusual feeling for me!

Rather than racing through the reading, I read through my poems in an expressive and animated way. I felt like I was really able to give it my all, and that I did my best. In my wildest dreams, I never thought I would actually enjoy the reading.

And I’ve had clients share similar dramatic experiences:

I continued to use the EFT tapping and find it to be extremely helpful. I feel less anxious, more motivated and am sleeping much better. –Laura L.

I had a total of 4 sessions over two months which included EFT, hypnosis, and Reiki, and I feel I am in a much better place than I was when I first met with her. Even my friends have seen the difference. During the sessions, I was filled with emotion and Deborah made me feel safe and comfortable as I expressed everything that came up.

One of the things I really liked is that she showed me techniques, such as EFT, I could do on my own when I began to feel anxious or blocked. In-between our sessions I would continue to work through issues that came up from my past (childhood and break ups) and when I saw her I would tell her about my progress and we would then work on a deeper layer to get to the root of what was causing those particular issues. I would most definitely recommend trying it! –Karen B.

I’ve been using the EFT method and all in all I’m feeling much more relaxed about everything, which is great. There are still some anxious days, but fewer and further between! I’m actually amazed at how much better and more “accepting” I feel – I’ve made more progress in the 3 months since I’ve seen you than in all the time before that. So thank you very much for all your help! I’ll definitely spread the word about the effectiveness of it! —Maggie V.

Now this is something you can do on your own (EFT is easy to learn), though sometimes people need extra support and come for hypnosis sessions. I show you EFT, we work though the things that trigger you, and you learn other self-hypnosis techniques to help you become a successful and eloquent public speaker.

And here’s some FAQ’s from clients about how to fine tune your tapping technique. Let me know how it goes!

What A World Famous Dancer Can Teach Us About Transformation

Posted on October 26, 2013



Last week I felt like my worlds came together in a surprising way.

In my former life, I was a ballet dancer. So my ears perked up in the Polarity bodywork class I was taking, when my teacher, Gary Strauss, mentioned the world-famous dancer and choreographer Luigi.

I grew up taking Luigi-style jazz classes but never knew his back story. It’s pretty remarkable.

Two months after arriving in Hollywood to pursue his dream, Luigi was in a near fatal car accident. He was paralyzed on one side of his body and doctors told him he’d never walk again.

While in a coma, he reported hearing an inner voice tell him: “Never stop moving kid, if you stop you’re dead.”

(I absolutely love that Luigi’s inner voice called him “kid.” What does your inner voice call you?)

So the first thing Luigi shows us is to listen to our inner voice. Hypnosis can be explained in many different ways, but I think the ability to listen to your inner voice is the #1 best thing about hypnosis and where transformation starts.

Back to Luigi. Dance he did: performing in An American in Paris, Singing in the Rain, and 28 other movies, eventually opening up his own school. At age 88, he still teaches daily classes.

But what was the one thing Luigi said that explains why making positive change is often hard?

And how can this new understanding help you transform your life in a powerful way?

If you keep doing things right long enough, they’ll get better right. But, if you keep doing things wrong long enough, they’ll feel right — wrong.” Eugene Louis “Luigi” Faccuito

How does this apply to making changes in your own life?

So often we do things over and over–so much so that it feels right even if it’s wrong (e.g. think bad habits, addictions, negative thought patterns).

And when we make a change using hypnosis, it sometimes feels wrong, even if it’s right.

I’ve experienced this first hand in my own life many times, and I love hearing clients share similar experiences. After going for a few hypnosis sessions, I’ll start to do whatever negative habit or behavior I always used to do–and DON’T! It’s quite an interesting sensation.

The most dramatic example was my fear of public speaking. I got up to do a presentation, and instead of rushing through it, I took a deep breath, surveyed the room, took it all in and savored the moment. I felt like I was in the wrong body at first. I actually enjoyed giving the speech (and believe me, I used to feel like throwing up, so this was quite a dramatic change).

And one last famous Luigi saying:
“Put the good side into the bad side.’’

All the self-hypnosis techniques I show you are ways to put the good into the bad, allowing you to get better results, so you can transform.

What are ways you can do the right thing even if it doesn’t feel comfortable, or put the good into the bad? I’d love to hear your ideas!

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