Therefore the Master
acts without doing anything
and teaches without saying anything.
Things arise and she lets them come;
things disappear and she lets them go.
She has but doesn’t possess,
acts but doesn’t expect.
When her work is done, she forgets it.
That is why it lasts forever. –Tao Te Ching
This past weekend I resat the Shinpiden Reiki class with my Reiki Teacher, Frans Stiene, who was in town from Australia. It’s been a couple years since I last saw him–Frans is often referred to as “the Reiki teacher’s teacher” and I couldn’t agree more. It was great to get renewed inspiration and delve deeper into the teachings of the system of Reiki.
Frans mentioned the quote above and it prompted me to think about expectations in general, and expectations of healing in particular. I’ve realized over the years that when it comes to my clients’ healing, as well as my own, the fewer expectations the better the results.
After all, what is healing? It reminds me of one of the patients I worked with at the hospital. She was explaining to another woman what she noticed from her Reiki sessions and told her that while she felt much more relaxed in her daily life, her knee pain didn’t really go away. It’s funny how we can dismiss feeling much more relaxed when we’re focused on that knee. And yes, I would love the knee pain to go away, and often that happens, but maybe your physical issue doesn’t entirely go away but you feel more peaceful in your daily life.
Another client was using hypnosis to help her with relationship issues (e.g. finding Mr. Right, trying to force a relationship into something that it’s not, etc.). We used techniques to help her soften expectations and tap into her intuition to create healthier new patterns. It’s like the idea of gripping a pen tightly in your hand, versus letting it rest gently in your open palm. It feels different just thinking about it, doesn’t it?
The photo above is of my favorite secret beach on the Big Island of Hawaii. Watching the waves roll in and out is a good metaphor, reminding me to let go of my expectations.MORE…
There’s a lot of conversation about getting rid of stress–in fact, hands down, it’s the number 1 reason people come to me for sessions. But I want to propose thinking about stress in a different way.
What if you define stress as something useful, instead of something to be cured?
Think of stress as a useful way of monitoring when your way of dealing with problems isn’t working well. Stress can be an indication that it’s time to think of more creative ways to cope.MORE…
If you are mentally somewhere else, you miss real life. –Byron Katie
Over the last few weeks many clients have mentioned wanting to be more present in their lives, rather than in their head with too many thoughts swirling around.
Repeatedly, clients have told me how difficult it is for them to meditate, but many find Reiki sessions make it possible for them to be present and achieve that same state of mind in a more accessible way. MORE…
Worry is like paying interest on a loan you might not get.
Anxiety is putting fear of failure into the future before it has any basis in reality. Dealing with anxiety is one of the top issues clients come to me for sessions, and I work with them to help break the cycle of anxiety by changing the way they respond to stress.
Deepak Chopra puts it this way:
Anxiety is like a shortcut. When faced with uncertainty, the normal response is to stop, consider what might happen, and make a decision based on the best prediction you can make. But the anxious person doesn’t go through this process; they jump right towards feeling afraid.
No one enjoys uncertainty. MORE…