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Roundup: Tips & Tools to Inspire

Posted on November 9, 2016

Round up: Tips and Tools to Inspire your Reiki practice


How are you doing?

I don’t know if you’re feeling it, but between the change of the seasons people seem a little more stressed than usual.
I know I’ve also been seeing more clients lately who are dealing with major life changes, especially around career and relationships. (Need a session to help? Book here and let’s figure it out together.)

Here are some tips and tools to inspire you and hopefully give you a soft cushion to feel a little more ease no matter what is going on in your life. (And feel free to share with me what’s inspiring you right now.)


Reflexology self-help gadgets

Karen Ball, a wonderful reflexology teacher, found a new self help gadget (if you know me, you know I’m ALWAYS looking for new gadgets to try and my feet are pretty happy about this).

And here’s a past article I wrote about some more of my favorite reflexology gadgets.

Youtube channels to follow

I recently had a client ask me what Youtube channels I recommend. She loves listening to Youtube for relaxation and inspiration. Here is my channel.

Check out who I subscribe to (in the left sidebar). I especially love Gabrielle Bernstein’s heart-centered talks, Master Sha’s powerful healing, and Doreen Virtue’s love and unicorn sparkle!

And I have a few Youtube videos with self-help reflexology techniques you can do for various issues including PMS, colds/flu, and back pain.

How to maximize your session in under 3 minutes

Pam Herrick is one of the wonderful practitioners I interview in my book, Building a Powerful Practice.

Here’s a great blog post she wrote to share with her clients—and she gave me permission to share it with you! She includes a free journal prompt that you can use after your sessions with me (or any other wellness session). It will help you maximize your session in under 3 minutes. Let me know how it goes.

How to access your inner wisdom

I’ve been following Susannah Conway for the past year, as well as taking some of her fabulous e-courses. Like Susannah, I truly believe the answers we seek can be found within each of us, and that deep down we know what’s best for ourselves. Here’s a good article on how to access your inner wisdom.

Your breath

The one resource you ALWAYS (hopefully!) have with you. Take a couple deep breaths now. Inhale through the nose, exhale through the mouth, letting go of anything you no longer need.



Distance Reiki: The Beginner’s Guide to Distance Healing

Posted on November 3, 2016

Distance Reiki: The Beginner’s Guide to Distance Healing When students sign up to take a Reiki II class, one of the techniques they are often most interested in learning is Distance Healing, also referred to as Absentee Reiki. Clients sometimes ask about this technique as well.

In this comprehensive guide I include:

  • Information about what Distance Reiki is
  • Why I prefer calling it Absentee Reiki
  • How it works
  • How to maximize the effectiveness of the technique
  • What to expect from Distance Reiki as a client
  • Direct examples from the student’s perspective

So here we go! Here’s everything you need to know about Reiki Distance Healing.


What is Distance Reiki Healing?

Distance Reiki is a technique within the system of Reiki that enables you to give a Reiki session beyond the limitations of time and space. It expands the practitioner’s ability to transmit spiritual energy beyond physical touch.

In other words, it’s a way to offer Reiki without the recipient being in the same room with you.

Why do I prefer calling it Absentee Healing?

From a traditional Japanese Reiki perspective, the Reiki Absentee Healing Technique focuses on offering Reiki from a state of Oneness, or connection to everything. In this way, you aren’t “sending” Reiki, instead you’re feeling one with another person and sharing Reiki this way.

The word distance implies separation (the opposite of being in a state of Oneness) so I prefer using the word absentee instead. For me, this is further supported by the use of the Reiki symbol and mantra HSZSN (often referred to as the Distance Reiki symbol) in conjunction with the Absentee Healing technique. HSZSN is all about helping us be in a state of Oneness.

Distance Reiki: The Beginner's Guide to Distance Healing

How Absentee Reiki Works

The Absentee Reiki Technique is usually 15-20 minutes long, but can continue longer if you like.

The practitioner schedules a time and date with the recipient (or client) for the Absentee Reiki session. By setting up a specific time the recipient can be in a receptive state (such as lying down or meditating during the treatment).

In advance of the session, the recipient will also email a photo of themselves to the practitioner, along with their name, age, location and any intention they have of what they want the session to support (e.g. a physical or health issue, goal, or challenge).

Having these details will help the practitioner connect to the client or recipient if they haven’t met before.

How can I maximize the effectiveness of the Absentee Reiki technique?

There are several things you can do to maximize the effectiveness of Distance Reiki Healing:

Create sacred space: Use candles, lights, music, incense, etc: whatever helps you get in the right state of mind to be in a state of oneness to offer Reiki. Barbara gives a great example below about what helps her get into the right state of mind.

Get in a meditative mindset: Recite the Reiki precepts, sit in meditation while doing the Reiki Purifying Breath technique, etc.

Work with the Reiki symbols and mantras: Chant, draw, or say the Reiki mantra or Distance Reiki symbol for HSZSN to help you access the oneness state of mind as you hold the client’s request in your mind.

Visualize: Imagine the client as if they were right in front of you—what do they look like, sound like, smell like.

What to expect from Distance Reiki as a client:

Clients will sometimes notice physical sensations during the Distance Reiki session, just as they might during a in-person session—warmth, tingling, or a sense of relaxation or peacefulness, for example. You might also notice the mind calming down or the alleviation of physical symptoms.

From the Student’s Perspective

As part of my Reiki II certification process, I ask each student to answer a few questions about their personal experience practicing the techniques and meditations from class.

Below four students share their unique experiences practicing Reiki Distance Healing:

Sarah Koestner is an actor, teacher, and coach, as well as a Reiki III graduate:

Giving Absentee Reiki was a fascinating experience. I truly doubted my ability to give this kind of Reiki before being challenged by the certification process to give it a try.

I feel like I learned on a deep level that distance is an illusion. I had a profound experience giving Reiki to my sister, where I had a visions of “spirits” giving her Reiki. After it was over she told me that she felt like she had been given a “virtual massage.” I thought that was such a great description of what Absentee Reiki can be.

Other recipients had very visual experiences. Again, it was interesting to see how everyone’s experience of Reiki can be different, and yet equally profound.

Working with the Distance Reiki symbol and mantra HSZSN as part of the Absentee Reiki technique was enormously powerful. I feel like I can genuinely feel the illusion of distance fading away when I work with this symbol. It immediately gives me a profound sense of inner peace and calm, almost as if the world drops completely away.

Caroline Gomez is a yoga teacher, mom of three, and a Reiki III graduate. Here’s her experience using the Absentee Reiki technique:

I learned that just because I’m not physically with the person receiving Reiki, it doesn’t make the distance Reiki treatment any less powerful.

In addition, the absence of the physical body forces me as the practitioner to move inward and connect to my intuition even more than an in-person session. I’ve found that that the most profound and powerful treatments I’ve given have been distance Reiki sessions.

Distance Reiki: From the Student's perspective

Barbara Becker is an actor and works in the arts, as well as being a Reiki III graduate:

After asking permission (which my mother gave with a degree of skepticism as to how Reiki can work from a distance, though she has gone to several Reiki circles at a Senior Center in Florida), I gave absentee Reiki to my mother on 4 consecutive nights, the same time each night.

She had recently fallen and was very bruised, achy and depressed/worried but relieved that she (thankfully) didn’t break anything. I hoped the Reiki transmissions would ease her pain and bruising, lighten her spirit, and aide in regaining her physical confidence during recovery.
Since this was my first time doing absentee Reiki, I set up a sacred space using John Levine’s music (Vision of Love) to relax and took purifying breaths while filling out a note card with a nature scene on the cover.

I chose to write in picture cards with their own envelopes instead of blank pieces of paper because this enhanced my ritual. I also used a lovely box which is now set aside to store future absentee transmission cards. Creating a special soothing environment grounded and strengthened my focus. Each night, I wrote down the date, my request, my mother’s information, her symptoms and my intentions after setting up my sacred space and then gave Reiki.

Over the 4 nights, I noticed that sometimes I was more focused than others, so I learned to give myself adequate time before beginning each transmission. My thoughts wandered at times beyond my mother to her two closest friends who are also dealing with health/pain issues, so I decided to include them on some level during the transmission while focusing mainly on her.

I discovered that visualizing my mom while holding a small stuffed animal and moving my hands over areas of her body that she had told me were affected helped because it made her more “tangible.” I am highly visual, so if I can “see,” it is easier to act. It helps to imagine, which in turn helps me to focus.

When I spoke to my mom after all 4 transmissions had been completed (as well as the day after my first transmission), she said she felt no improvement and was still depressed and sore. I was disappointed since I had hoped the transmissions would have immediate positive impact.

I believe that Reiki has enormous impact because of my own experiences. What I realized (yet again) is that I cannot control what she or anyone accepts or rejects on any level. Even though my efforts proved unsuccessful in her view, if one is open to something, it is more likely to have a positive impact and clearly if one is not, the opposite may occur.

All you can do is try/allow. Wanting it to “work” for her is like trying to control her. That is disrespectful. So I have to let go of that hope. I choose to believe that regardless of her current state, Reiki energy did move through her and will aide her recovery even if it doesn’t appear to have done so yet. She may not be able to accept this because her heart is sad, her body is sore, and she is not in a receptive state. That is now. My compassion must “see” that. The future holds possibilities. Tomorrow or next week may be different.

All one can do is allow the Reiki energy to flow. Where it lands, how it lands or is perceived by others is beyond our reach. One has to let it flow and let it go. One has to see that even within the “no” is a “yes” waiting to surface.

As an actress for decades (who continued my training for many years), I learned that once you develop a strong technique/foundation, you must trust it enough to let go of it in performance and rely on your gut/intuition. Not everything you learn serves you well for each role. Certain things may fall by the wayside and not work for you, while others will form the basis of what you do regularly as a performer. Knowledge is your toolbox. Each role may require different tools.

Distance Reiki: From the student's perspective

Diona Ceniza is an arts therapist and Reiki III graduate:

During the times I’ve done Absentee Reiki, I felt pretty comfortable with the process.  I was able to visualize the other person clearly and feel the energy being channeled to him/her.  But there is something about being able to touch the individual, or at least be in the same space with them, that for me takes the session to a greater, more meaningful level.  It just feels more natural, so I admittedly find myself pushing Absentee Reiki aside in favor of the chair or table protocol.

It’s interesting to read how different each student’s experience was, and how trusting yourself and not judging the outcome is so key. And to realize that there are many different tools and techniques in the Reiki practitioner’s toolbox, and both the practitioner and recipient will be drawn more or less to the various techniques. The flexibility of the system of Reiki enables you to modify and adjust according to both you and your client’s needs.

How can I schedule a Distance Reiki Healing treatment?

Here’s more information on Distance Reiki sessions and you can book an appointment here.

If you’re interested in taking a Reiki class and learning more about Distance Healing, read this previous post about how to find a qualified teacher.

And if there’s a topic or question about Distance Reiki I didn’t include, let me know and I’ll include it.

Easing into fall and honoring burn-out

Posted on October 11, 2016

Easing into fall and honoring burn-out

I hope you’re doing well as we ease into fall.

I know it’s been a little while since I posted articles on my blog. To be honest, I was feeling burned out writing newsletters, blog posts, and various articles, and felt a sense of obligation, a sense of, “I SHOULD” do this.

Can you relate?

I mention it because as a small business owner (or a regular human being in the modern world), there will always be more that we feel we should be doing. This is especially true if you’re just starting out with your wellness practice.

Now that I’ve taken a little break from writing newsletters and posts, I feel more inspired and refreshed.

Is there something you feel you “should” be doing that you could take a little break from?

Practitioner Tip

Ask your clients to share their experience of receiving your work—it could be a short testimonial or something longer like a guest blog post.

Two of my Reiki students agreed to share their experiences learning Reiki. A first-hand account can be a nice contrast to hearing from you as the practitioner or teacher. Here’s how learning Reiki helped one student deal with a break-up and how it helps another student manage her ego (no easy task!).

Helpful Articles

This article from Mark Tyrrell, hypnotherapist and owner of Uncommon Knowledge, examines how to avoid burnout when dealing with depressed clients. He talks about the importance of self care (one of my favorite topics), as well as how to have healthy boundaries and avoid getting too caught up in the content of the client’s issue rather than focusing on the larger patterns you can help them change.

Reiki practitioner Nathalie Jaspar shares how the Reiki precept “Do not worry” affects her daily life as a freelancer. I also like the example she gives of how to include a few minutes of meditation in the midst of a stressful day. So often we think meditation should be a more formal practice, and I like the flexibility of her approach. This allowed her to get a big picture perspective and go beyond taking the work misunderstanding personally.

Want your own dose of Reiki inspiration? Check out her array of Reiki prints, mugs, and T-shirts… (I bought two prints for my office and am getting many compliments!)

If you’re a healing arts practitioner looking for help with the business aspect of your practice, you can get my book, Building a Powerful Practice: Successful Strategies for Your Wellness Business. It’s also available on Nook!

Learning Reiki: A Student’s Perspective on Expectations & The Ego

Posted on September 7, 2016

Learning Reiki: A Student's Perspective on Expectations & The Ego

Diona Ceniza is one of my past students. She recently completed the full Reiki training—Reiki Levels I, II, and III—and is moving into setting up her professional practice. Here’s her experience of learning Reiki.

The Benefits of Reiki Self Care

I learned first-hand about the benefits you get to enjoy when doing Reiki self-care. I never really know how it will turn out each time I give myself Reiki, but often I experience an amazing sense of well-being, a feeling of becoming more centered, and on a couple of occasions a sudden outpouring of emotions (i.e. crying my eyes out!)

I have come to realize and appreciate how important giving myself Reiki is as part of my self-care regimen.

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Reiki Treatment: What to Expect

The more I study Reiki and dive deeper, the more I learned to remove expectations.  When I first started, there was this hope that each session would be an amazing cleansing or big release of emotions.  Now I see that I wouldn’t be able to function if it was that intense every time, and I’m more trusting of the process.  

So whether the session leaves me crying, on cloud nine, or somewhere in between, I’m grateful.  And even if some sessions are more subtle, the overall effect of practicing self-care Reiki on my life has been anything but (a relationship ending abruptly, strong push towards a new career, just pure chaos…).  So I guess another lesson I learned from giving myself Reiki is that it truly does have a cleansing effect, and while it can be painful, it’s ultimately for the best.

How Getting Reiki Sessions Can Vary (A Lot!)

I hope to become a professional Reiki practitioner and receiving professional Reiki sessions taught me a couple of things. Firstly, it taught me how to conduct myself when running a private practice. Secondly, I learned how different each session and practitioner can be. Practitioners differ considerably in their approach but can be equally impactful.  

My first experience receiving Reiki was quite dramatic. The first practitioner I went to worked at home and was very open.  She said I needed to leave my job, gave me the necklace she was wearing because she said it would help me stay grounded, and ordered a Pema Chodron book for me on Amazon.  The session felt like the practitioner tapped into a lot of stuck energy in my chest. It physically felt as if someone sat on my chest during the session!  The session itself was intense and I went home that night hunched over from the emotions that had been dredged up.

My second experience with a different practitioner was more subtle, but the impact of it lasted long after the session. The session took place in an office setting.  It was more gentle and uplifting, and there was a stronger sense of boundaries that, as an art therapist, I am more familiar with. I felt much lighter and less stressed for a few months after the session.

Despite these differences, however, my sessions with both practitioners were equally transformative, shifting my life towards a path that involves potentially becoming a Reiki practitioner myself.  

The Benefits & Challenges of Giving Reiki to Others

One of the first things I learned giving Reiki to friends and family was how energized I felt. In a way, it can actually feel more healing than doing Reiki on myself.

Reiki & The Ego

On the other hand, I also realized how afraid I can be to offer Reiki to other people, largely because of my own ego and worries that the other person wouldn’t feel any benefits.

Ego is especially present when I give Reiki and it’s the reason it took me so long to fulfill the certification requirements.  For months, I delayed asking others if I could practice on them because I was afraid of hearing them say no, or worse, that they would find the experience lacking if they said yes.  In other words, there’s a big part of me that wants to be seen as a great practitioner, never mind the wellbeing of the client.  I try to be mindful of it as much as I can and remind myself that it is Reiki doing the healing, not me.  

The biggest lesson I’m taking away from this is that I have a long way to go in terms of realizing that I am not giving Reiki or doing the healing, the person takes from the energy what he or she needs. I also need to become more in touch with my intuition.

Reiki & Connection

I also realized that when giving Reiki, I feel deeply connected to the other person.  Besides feeling immense gratitude that they are willing to open themselves up in such a big way, their happiness and well-being becomes my primary concern.  I’ve never felt bonded to another person in such a deep but peaceful way.

Learning Reiki and taking the full training was excellent. I continue to enjoy this amazing journey and have learned and grown so much.

Interested in learning more about Reiki? Here’s how to find a qualified Reiki teacher.

In New York City and want to take a class? Check out the details here.

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